Online Dating is Fucked

It's hard to meet people.

Theoretically, it should be easy. Just go up to someone and say "Hey, I'm Clint. We should communicate textually and see where it goes". But obviously, that's weird. Also, textually isn't a word.

Meeting new people - particularly females - is not an easy task. Nobody new ever comes around, bars are usually too loud, and decent looking girls usually have a plethora of options anyway.

-There lies the problem (foreshadowing.. probably not supposed to point that out though)

I date online. There. I said it. I don't talk about it much. I mostly discuss it with one person (you know who you are) and vaguely with a couple others (you also know who you are, but probably won't read this). I've dated online for quite some time now. Off and on though. It's very tiresome.

I have read articles where guys have made fake accounts on Plenty of Fish of a good looking girl and a good looking guy. In one day, the guy had a few messages. The girl had close to 100.
I have no real statistics to prove it, but I'm 90% sure the ratio of guys to girls on dating sites is at least 8:1.

Eight guys for every one girl.

Already, the odds are against me. Most importantly, the odds are in favor of the girls.

Or are they? (more foreshadowing..)

Here's one recent scenario: A girl messages me. An attractive one. Not extremely common considering the ratio above. She points out a show that we both like and we seem to hit it off right away. Had my kind of personality, and everything about this is rare for online dating. Lots of going back and forth, lots of seemingly good vibes personally and personality wise. After a concert and a few good hangouts, I propose the idea of a pretty big date. Pulled out all the stops. In the end, somehow, I had a sinking feeling that my intentions were being reciprocated. Meaning, she didn't seem extremely attracted to me. Just kindof.. along for the ride (So to speak - AYO!). Wasn't really investing herself into getting to know this guy.

Why should she?

1. I have flaws both glaring and buried miles below the surface.
2. There are plenty of other guys hitting her up. Just has to check her phone or log into any dating app.

Exactly. There is no need to put any effort into the option in front of you if there are so many others at your disposal. Some of them probably have nice cars, some of them probably have money. As a brilliant philosopher once put it: "Girls don't like boys, girls like cars and money". Of course, there are girls who will be smart enough to see that isn't everything, so they don't go for the flashy type. Yet, they won't go for the good/goofy guy who's full of semi-nervous energy.

You can't be nervous if you have nothing to worry about.
And you have nothing to worry about if you have other options to fall back on.
And you won't apply any effort when your head, heart and whatever else are occupied.
And if you don't put in the effort, you won't reap the reward.
Good things don't magically happen. They require care.

(By the way, this has been a more drawn out - and heart-wrenching - version of 90% of my online interactions. This scenario, in a way, has been every scenario. Merely an example.)

Find one option that you like, and try it. If you've given it a real shot and it doesn't work, then look for something else.

This won't happen though, because most people don't know what they want.

So they'll go through the motions and then decide that it all just didn't work.

Nothing is gained. Nothing is won.

Online dating, is indeed fucked.

P.S. Part of me needs to point out that I know I shouldn't start sentences with "and". Doing it that way was just the manner in which I wanted to express my point.

P.P.S. This doesn't mean I will give up. Somehow, there is still optimism inside Clint.

P.P.P.S. Yes, I referred to the singer of Good Charlotte as a brilliant philosopher. Satire is alive and well, folks.